Maybe you need to read my post Semptember morn a few before yours to see that I do get the pain she was in. So, please, don't doubt what I already said.
I think she is in excruciating pain. And I am sure that if she knew we were aching and going through this "back and forth" on what is right and what wasn't it would only be more frustrating for her.
She did what she did for her reasons. I get that.
Don't assume in such grandiose ways....