((((((((( MU ))))))))))) I sense that number 4 may be the strongest for you. Maybe the others are kinda like "excuses" to "push" T away ... If T is not close enough or if you don't HAVE to address the "other" issues with him, maybe that can "buy you some time" to find a new safe hiding place for those emotions you really do NOT want to face.

Maybe I am way off base here.. but that is exactly what I figured out I was doing. I would reather deal with T with ANYTHING BUT the deepest part of the pain.