My daughter started SI behavior at the age of 12. I remember seeing her injuries for the first time, hundreds of cuts. I never knew until a friend of hers told a counselor at school. Initially, she pushed her dad and I away and refused help. It's been 2 1/2 years and 8 hospitalizations. We've tried a dozen combinations of different medications. She is currently doing well and now sees us as her biggest advocates.

The best advise I can give is to keep pushing for the help she needs. Question everything the doctors and social workers suggest. Most psychiatrists and social workers use a method of trial and error when treating patients. Make sure that there is justification for the treatment they recommend and be sure to ask what kind of result they expect. Remember, you know your daughter better than anyone else. Keep a journal of what's happening, especially medications and how they are affecting her. Most importantly, be there for her. Learn to listen without responding with words but with just a hug or holding her hand.

I wish you the best of luck, it's not an easy road to travel.