* I learned a new word, "abandonment". This was a key that really opened the past to a huge new understanding. I learned that I had an abusive childhood; took me by surprise completely but explained so much.

* I'm learning to identify triggers and compulsive behavior, and just occasionally I can remember how to handle them.

* I find my self angry less often.

* Am beginning to take a little better care of myself. now that I think of it, since I persist in seeing T through DH opposition, maybe I have been doing that for a whlie now.

added note: Thanks Treehouse for asking this question. It's important to see that there are changes (whew!)

* (just this morning) I realized that I don't ALWAYS see myself as a bird beating its wings against the bars of a cage; there are some peaceful times too.