I definitely agree she needs some therapy. However, she is unwilling to go. Her rationale is "If I can't even open up to you about my thoughts, how am I going to open up for a complete stranger?" I agree with her. I know if she went to a counselor she'd just start crying as soon she started to speak. Also, the distance does affect her but that's not necessarily a role in what she's going through. She'll often "shut off" like this in person too. She just has a problem with negative thinking and she gets derailed by it. And it causes her to just shut off and not be happy...From a selfish point of view, I want her to get better because it makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong. I am very loving towards her but I know sometimes she'll take something I say that is harmless and twist it. I go out of my way not to say anything I know she'll twist but that's impossible to do all the time. So it makes me feel inadequate as a boyfriend (even if I know all the negative thoughts aren't ALL caused by me). Also, I'm not the MOST talkative person in the world so when she shuts off my conversational skills aren't good enough to carry us through the conversation we are having and it frustrates me.