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Originally Posted by Tishie
I will have to do the latter ie learn to cope with the fall out as its not fair on him to ask him to change his ways because of my problem.
I really dont know how I am going to do this though....  |
Well, perhaps this: If I were to have a conversation with my wife regarding such a topic I think I would start by telling her that sometimes I find myself not being completely truthful with her because I am fearful that I will hurt her feelings and that I love her so much that I don't want to hurt her feelings. However, I find that not being completely honest is starting to affect me and I want to change but to do so, I will need her help and understanding. That for instance, when she goes away for trips, that I don't always feel like I'm missing her because her love is with me - perhaps because I feel so safe in the relationship that I never really feel alone - even when she is not here...but I realize that she processes the feeling of 'missing me' differently and hence has different needs. etc etc etc
I don't want to put words in your mouth of course, but if it fits...