Hi skittles99,

Are you and the child's father living together as "friends" or as a couple? Have you tried talking with him about how you're feeling?

Having a baby is very stressful. It can be both joyful and hard on other relationships. Especially if you and the father don't communicate real well. It's very common for both parents to feel overwhelmed by the tasks ahead of them, and to feel as though others aren't contributing much. Those are very human emotions. Talking about those thoughts and emotions openly, with one another, is highly recommended.

That said, maybe the above doesn't apply to you. Maybe the father is being a loser, who is uninterested in his child. That is a possibility. I would rather believe that he is interested though...and is just feeling kind of lost. Perfectly normal reaction to parenthood. How is he contributing to the household?

You stated that he hardly helps you....so he is doing something. What is that something that he's doing? Is he going to school as well? Working? Stay at home dad?

Welcome to Psych Central . I hope that you get the support and understanding that you're looking for. There are some helpful online parenting groups that can provide a lot of emotional support, experience and ideas to tackle troubles as your baby grows.

While time seems to take forever in the moment, looking back you can see that it flew by! My girls are 5 and 7 now, which is completely different phase of childhood. But I do remember the stress of being a stay at home nursing mom. I loved nursing, loved my girls very much, but I also wished that I could get out with other moms. MOMS Club was a wonderful discovery for me! They are an international group. Do check your area online, to see if one is available nearby. It was such an emotional relief for me to see other women with similar struggles & happiness. I picked up some good techniques too, watching interractions, and my girls playing with other kids their age was fun for them! A win-win situation.

((hugs)) Best wishes!