If she was to demand proof that you were at the library, are you able to say 'no'? It is not your responsibility to assuage her paranoia at every turn and if you accept that responsibility then you are not helping her, you are enabling her.[/quote]

Well the thing is, she'll never accuse me of lying or cheating. She'll never ask me things like "Where are you? Who are you with?" But I know exactly when she shuts off and I know she is thinking those things in her head. It affects me because when she thinks these things, she literally just does not talk and gives me one word answers. It's uncomfortable on several levels. Sometimes she'll tell me the thoughts will go away and I really try my hardest just to go on as if nothing has happened but the thought doesn't go away. It isn't until she sees me visibly frustrated that she'll tell me what's on her mind.