I hate housework too. But!!!...I do like a clean and orderly environment, as I truly believe our environment affects our mental state.

I think the reason I "hate" housework goes back to my childhood. While my parents worked, I, the older of the two siblings, was responsible for getting the housework done after school, and before parents arrived home in the evening. My younger sister did none of it, but if I didn't get it done, I was whipped. When I was married, my husband was fastidious, and would go around checking for dust....just a further extension of my childhood, really.

Alone now, I do it for myself, so I can have a pleasant environment. But it's nice 'cause I don't have to meet other people's expectations.

As I read your initial post here, your description of your husband showing his love by doing things sounded much like my ex. But I wanted an emotional connection he didn't know how to give...just a good fixit man. Now, I can pay someone to fix things.

I'm not being much help here, but just wanted you to know that you're not alone in hating the housework. ONe thing I do which helps me in getting things done, is to make a list, and checking off the tasks. I get a sense of satisfaction from accomplishing this, and do it at my own pace.

Patty