I'm curious as to HOW it affects your relationship? Does he blatantly see that you are lying? Or do you just have a guilty conscience?

I hurt my bf's feelings sometimes bc I flat out say that I'm not in the mood to talk to him etc... But he is a big boy. He knows that sometimes he just doesn't feel like talking to me. Is your husband really that needy? You don't necessarily have to lie or, like perna said, elaborate. If my bf is hinting that he wants to hear a specific thing, and he keeps saying little hints over and over I just sit there and listen. So I'm not flat out lying but at the same time I'm not saying "God, you're annoying" lol