[QUOTE=TheByzantine;1390167]I remain of the opinion that joint counseling would be beneficial. The therapist can help her see how what she does is affecting the relationship. What is going on is not a healthy relationship. Being alone in your own house does neither any good.

Well I would not go as far to say this is not a healthy relationship. I would actually argue the opposite. It's very healthy. The lines of communication are always open, no one has ever lied, there's no cheating, there's a lot of love, we never "fight". But yes THIS aspect of the relationship is unhealthy. It's not 100% healthy but obviously there are things we need to fix. There's a lot of love there between us and I think that goes very far, even if there is a major communication problem. It's like we communicate great but at the same time when she goes through this episode it's very frustrating and obviously the communication is lacking.

My solution for right now is i'm going to back off. I told her the things I would do if I were in her shoes and how I would approach it, and then I told her that if there's anything she needs I'm always there but I'm gonna stop approaching this like it's MY problem. I told her to patient with herself and eventually she'll find answers....Thanks for all your help guys.