Patty,
I just picked up on this thread and hope you have a good outcome.
It's too bad that women still need the male voice to be assertive but it's true.
This guy you're dealing with sounds really slimy. Have you talked to the police about this? Is it considered stolen property? If he knows you've contacted the police he might back off and at least answer your friend's phone calls.
Getting ripped off makes me feel violated at some level.
Best of luck to you, you don't deserve this aggrevation.