You are right, he puts it that way that it is all my fault but looking back it started early in our realitionship. I am from Austria and came the first time to LA in 1998 by myself.
In 1999 I came back again and was happy with myself, than he talked to me.
Afterwards he told me that he thought I needed help that's why he talked to me, I was 240 pounds at that time (now I am on 180) and he want to help me.
I mean that's crazy already if you think how many help is out there from weight watchers and more.
He has no place and no money at that time, he still don't have a lot.
We dated for 3 years, he came to Austria for 8 month. In 2002 I choosed to give it a try and moved to LA and we got married. The wedding was crap, drive through in Las Vegas, no dress no family nor friend not even a picture.
After that I got a Job and worked 45 hours a week. He got fired from walgreen because of stealing. In 7 years he went for 5 Interviews but he blamed it on being black that nobody hires him.
He was like the wife cleaning the house cooking and everything else at home.
My hours got shorter and I came home sometimes earlier, that was already to much to piss him of.
He always find something and make me believe that I am stubid and I start everything. The day I posted that he is the best husband, he got me again and brain washed me. He said we are in a commitment and I do nothing from him, I am lazy and don't exercise every day 1 hour.
When our daughter was born he went more crazy. I had postpartum and no help from anybody. In 3 years my daughter was 2 days away from me besides the daycare. I took her for 1 year with me to work, I am a personal chef, that's why I could do that.
I was in a lot of back pain and limping for almost 8 month because of the epedora.
I fall one day because of my pain and he told me if anybody else fall, he understand but because its me is no wonder because I am too stubid to walk.
If I call him on the phone he scream (excuse my language but that's his words)
I have to take a **** and you bother me!!
He say's I am mentaly ill and not a good mom. Since the day I came here I made more money, more friends, since he has not even one and everything else.
I believed is all my fault, that's why he wants a divorce.
I guess he just do me a favor because slowly I believe he is mentaly ill.