I can relate--my oldest will be 34 this week...He knows it all---My daughter will be 33 in October--They each graduated College, had all the accoutrements of dance lessons,
Little League, etc...but they are not who they were!!

These are adults now: I need to have a different relationship with them.
Not that I want one at all with my son...story for another day.

My daughter is now a mom and wife---I'm working, and she is trying also, to bond as friends now-----sure, when she wants mommying, I'll be there--but right now;
she wants her "boundaries respected" hey-so do I.

Time for me to stop living through my kids--time has come today!!! To live through ME, and for Me--My relationship with my daughter will grow if I do this For Me!!!

"There are only two lasting bequests we can leave our Children;
One is Roots,
The other Wings"--"If you love something, set it free--If it truly loved you;
It will be back in time"-----------------hang in there!!!

They really know it all when they hit thirty!!!--sorry 'bout that----theo

Postscript: You ne'er stop worrying about them.....but it doesn't have to take your focus off yourself. I am concentrating on Me now, Kids learn by example---this is respected.