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Originally Posted by sittingatwatersedge
Hi Zoo, 
ouch, you are in some very familiar territory for me.
If it were me yes I would call again, and I would start with the very words, well you did say 'call me back later if you want to', so I am.
She didn't say, if you need to, or if you have an emergency, but if you WANT TO, so if you want to, do it!
Whether you call again or don't, the next time you meet i know the two of you will spend some good time on this - and it's important that you do so.
My T and I have been around and around about callbacks & abandonment issues at least five times... horridly painful... and the last time it came up, i threw caution to the winds and told T that I'd come to the conclusion that she will never change it - could easily do so, but will not, for her own purposes.  She said, but that's manipulation, I don't do that. I told her, I hear you saying you don't but I think you only say that due to denial on yourr part. (yikes  )
Today T makes an effort to call me back. I need to be sure to tell her how much I appreciate it. I really do. Now YOU will probably handle it better, Zoo. You go girl!!
SAWE 
PS if my T ever does read this forum, she sure knows who I am now....  |
thank you so much, SAWE
It's good to know I'm not the only one who has struggled with this issue. You were so brave to say that to your T!
I'm so glad it worked out for you and that she makes more of an effort to return your calls.
I know my T has been making more of an effort, too, because she did really good about returning calls and being available since our last rupture. Until yesterday. And I keep trying to tell myself that the timing is just coincidental and it doesn't have anything to do with the disclosures I made on Tuesday, but it FEELS like it's related.
I'm kind of scared about calling her back because I've been hearing some Boot-Camp-T in her voice the last couple of times we talked, but again, that's probably in my head. But Boot Camp T is NOT what I need right now. I'm going to call her and kind of hope she doesn't answer so I can leave her a message. I think I will feel much better once I know I've explained my feelings of rejection as well as I can.
I can't imagine where I would be or how I would work through this stuff if I didn't have this place to come and process it.
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