Wow, that is a big move for him to do that and not take your feelings into consideration. He had the chance to do that before he did the paperwork. Once he signed on the doted line though, it is not up to you no matter what you say. I was curious about his disease as they ask you about all medical issues and give you a physical before hand. Some illnesses are okay. From what you say, he sometimes needs pain meds. Basic training is very intense and will take everything he's got. They usually give info to the family about the military. Military is big on families and there are a lot of benefits for you and your kids. Not trying to sway you either way, but once he signs that contract, it is either acceptance or divorce unless he does not make it through basic or advanced individualized training. PM me if you want.