(((((((((((((Gem))))))))))))))
what a horrible thing to have to put up with. i wish i could say that i had no clue what that felt like, but i do. of course, if i didn't there would be not much point in writing here, eh?
definitely stay away from him in social aspects. family obligations can be overwhelming and frustrating but try to avoid family events that involve him. you don't deserve that kind of emotional torture. it may make you feel guilty but guilt is a little easier than the agony of being around your abusers. ((((((((((Gem)))))))))))
please stay extra safe and take care. i'm always here if you want to talk.

shadow