I can TOTALLY relate to this, though it is my BF. I don't really see a long term trait in this regard, like beautifuldisaster78 asks about... but I don't know that it *wouldn't* be so... I simply never had that kind of relationship with anyone. Not close to family. Was married a *long* time, but he totally never *got* my BP-ness, so I went inside myself as much as possible. However, I do know that the security blanket analogy applies in the case of my BF. I quite literally had figured it was 'bout time to... wrap it up, you might say. Then I met him. It is the most miraculous thing that has ever happened in my life, timing not the least of which. It is one of the very few things I don't share with him, because it would just be entirely too much pressure. Nor do I keep him apprised of every fluctuation. I'll give him a head's up if I'm really off, and he's observant enough to know when I'm not quite right. For me, these "small" things are HUGE, never having experienced anyone who gave a damn enough. Overall, I'm not a dependant person emotionally. Everyone is at arm's length. Always have been. My reasoning, such as it is, is "Can't let you in. Too dark in here." Don't expect much anyway, so why bother? Never consult anyone about "what to do" or even let them know what's up. I *am* a dependant sort in terms of financial and navigating the "real world", for reasons of sucking royally in those regards.
What was the question again?
(Hehe, so yeah, no problems on a "long" post beautifuldisaster -- it's quite concise actually!)