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Old Jun 05, 2010, 06:22 PM
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Originally Posted by marjan View Post
sweet heart....why are you sad?

I really think you should not get into any relationships till you feel happy inside.....trust me, you don't need a guy to stay happy....do what you like and find yourself....your inner side....
I know lots of people may have told you this before, but it's really true....
I've been like you before when I hit 32 and got divorced.....it took me years to understand how much is important to be comfortable with myself and not laying my happiness on a guy's shoulder.....

This guy, Richard, is a baby....good that you deleted his number.....I think you are so lucky to not have him at all.....he's a total baby who can't make up his mind....you need a mature guy who keeps his promises and not give you headache.....

I'm getting much better in my selection.....I know what I want and I don't go for anything less....It should be my match.....

Do you want to me to make you laugh? There is this guy who keeps sending me winks and emails....He's like 50 years old, oriental and he's a cook.....there is absolutely no match between us....nothing....from race to background to age to our daily activities and education and interests.....It's just a joke to me that he doesn't go for somebody to be his match at least....or he may not read my profile....and even I sent "no thanks" to his wink, but he still emails me.....I wish him a luck, but I think there are some people out there who just want to be with somebody.....and try their chances anyway.....

stay active and you will be fine....
with love
Marjan

P.S. I'm going for a short hike today....

Hi Marjan,

You did make me smile.. I get 'kisses' from guys in their late 40's early 50's too LOL It's like why?? Haven't you read my profile haha.

I guess that I had started to realy like Richard and was hoping it would turn into something more.
He said that if I had of just said 'yes' after the first few dates then we would be together and happy right now.. so am I weird for wanting to wait until I felt something back?
I feel that there is something a bit wrong with me wanting to take things slowly... and in a way I have only myself to blame. When I first met Richard I was still hoping that Mark would make up his decision.. so that's the main reason I wanted to slow things down with Richard... and now I have lost him too...
He feels that it went 'stale' with all the waiting - his wording not mine.. I don't really see the difference between what we were doing and a relationship other than possibly spending more time together...

I just feel that I screwed this up. He sees his T next week and hopes that it will help with his anxiety and depression.. and that maybe this is te cause of the loss of strong feelings.. but I doubt it - think like you said Marjan, he's a kid, he had a crush and when it was finally returned then he lost interest... the chase was gone or something - I don't know.

Just feeling so down atm... Yeah exercise would help but I have no motivation or will to move about.. just want to lie in bed and sulk

Have a lovely hike and enjoy the day xxooxx
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