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Originally Posted by Jewels
Good for you Kiya...I was so afraid of letting it slip, so to speak, that I had selves as well...but come to find out, most of the group I am in also have selves...so there was not the backlash I was expecting...I'm glad to hear things are going so well for you too...wishing you the best in everything that comes up!
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Oh good Jewels! That has got to be hugely supportive. And you know, I am remembering now that the oldest gal in our group was nodding like "more than mere understanding" nod... and I know i swapped again when one guy asked about the "arm warmers" i was wearing (covering the SI) and we pulled in -away- 2 or 3 people sort of backed me up just by their presence and one gal near my age said something like "as we all gather protectively around kiya".
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Originally Posted by BlueMoon
It is GREAT that the group will continue for a little while longer. And, you never know, as it continues, the T might find a way to continue further. And I want to support you on seeing this T individually if you can. WOW! I know the change would be hard but you know where your T stands. And this can only be something positive.
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=) I hope so, blue!! I hope it will continue - or morph into Group 2.0
There's so much everyon wants to work on - I quipped that group is going to go on a looooooooooong time!
I may still start feeling out if my T would be with my changing to group t. Every now and again we do good work - but the rest of the time, it feels like backward steps.
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About letting the selves thing slip....I also think this was a GREAT thing, too. You know that you are there to be Kiya and to help Kiya....all of Kiya...to recover. On some level, do you feel a bit of relief that you can truly be yourself and allow the group membes (7 is a good number!) to "see" you. How can you be in group long term and not truly be yourself? That when the group knows you and what you have to deal with, they can interact with the "real" Kiya. And they can help you from there. Those members are not there in this group because they dont have serious issues, they do. I LOVE that you had this "slip" and now the cat is out of the bag! Keep lettin' those cats out!
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OMG funny you shoud say "cats" because yesterday we were all making little cat hisses and cat claws indicating people's tempers... esp with out goth gurl out in front there was a lot of that happening both before group and at the end of it. =^..^=
It still leaves me a bit shaky and diss-ed to think about the slip up... but it does still feel supported. The T already knew and would often ask me after group how the littles were fairing. One guy was saying something like my front self not being "fake" (i had used the term facade) -that it was real and was also more like a mask for the rest. which (ok this is hard for me to own) brought about a discussion on how i present myself as an intelligent young woman with many strengths and talents. I think I looked at the floor during this part. the T often comments (she is good at working to build up our ideas of ourselves) that I am strong and seem to be good at asking for/getting needs met... @_@ She also mentioned that it is often hard for people to see that in themselves.
Ok - I'm writing a novel in here... gonna stop =)
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