Wow... I am in the exact same position right now. I'm just so mad and angry at my family that I could burst into flames. It's not like you can flat out say to them what it is and how it's going to be. You either don't know how or you feel guilty and the whole thing is just hard. Plus, if they don't want to acknowledge what they've done to you... There are so many other things. Ugh! I totally get what you're going through. I'm mad too, right there standing next to you!