This may, strictly speaking, be a bit off topic but I wanted to put it out there anyway. A former friend (emphasis on former lol) used to consider himself an expert on how people felt and, more important, how they should feel. For the whole time I knew him, he was always trying to convince me that there had to be something seriously wrong with me because he was the gold standard of cool, I wasn't much like him, and I seldom felt the way he felt.

In the short term, he had me pretty worried. It turned out to be quite a valuable learning experience, though. In the long run, I gained a lot more from finding out he didn't have the answers I was looking for, than I ever lost by believing he did have them.

So Myers, when you try to compare how you feel (or don't feel) to how you're supposed to, how do you tell if "how you're supposed to" actually has anything to do with you?

Another thought I'm having along those same lines: I guess we can agree that this little thingie is blue. But how do we tell if the way you see blue is anything like the way I see blue? Trying to compare how you feel stuff to how I feel similar stuff to how someone else does, seems to me a lot like trying to compare how we see blue. Could it be that, as long as we have no trouble agreeing that this is blue, it doesn't much matter if we all see blue the same way or not?

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Someone will tell me, "That's not blue, it's turquoise" (or aqua, or cyan or something). I will stand corrected.