So my bf and I have been together about 1.5 years. I really do love him but some things he does upset me and refuses to stop them no matter how much they bug me.

Well this guy and I have been back and forth for years (about 4) and everytime one of us is in a relationship. Then when I wanted to he didnt want to do long distance which I understand. Then when he started to be okay with long distance I had started dating my current bf thinking that this guy was out of it for good.

Well I have always kind of felt like I was settling no matter who I was dating, same with my current bf. I feel like, yes he is a good guy but he just isnt " the one". But I try to talk myself out of thinking that there even is such a thing as "the one" and that, no matter what, our partners will never really be exactly what we want.

Well, this other guy came to my graduation party today and I felt everything all over again. I felt like I could hold him, hug him and just BE with him. We never fight over anything. We have been friends for years and both of us have said that we find something wrong with everyone we date and that it keeps coming back to each other.

We have both compared ourselves to Jim and Pam (if you watch The Office) but our timing is never right. For us to be together, which we have both talked about and definitely want, one of our lives would have to change drastically.

I'm seriously stuck in a dilemma I never thought I would be in. My sister and brother have both told me they can tell this other guy likes me a lot just by the way he looks at me. We have tried dating but, being so many hours apart, it just doesn't seem fair to either one. But I still have dreams about him and we talked after my party today and he said exactly what I said. He said no girl has ever come close to me and that he knew we were meant for each other since the day he saw me.

Once he left I felt like crying. I just have this longing for him that I have never had with anyone and a spark I have never had with anyone before. But on the other hand, I really do love my current bf and, seems as right now, our paths will never been on the same track. Do I stay with the man I'm with and settle but keep my education and career on track? Or do I change my plans a little for the guy that I seriously feel I am meant to be with but change my entire future? I'm so lost. I seriously don't know what to do. All this was fine until he came to my party and he just brought up all these feelings I had been trying to forget about.