My take on this is similar to AkAngel, and Umbral Seraph's. He had sex with that guy--he, naturally would deny it--most men do. So don't expect him to be honest with you about anything. You sound as if the Trust is gone now--that is everything in a relationship--
no trust=no relationship; especially in this day of killer AIDS--Yes, heterosexual men get it too!!!!!!!!

Also, get yourself tested for STD's--better safe than sorry!!

He could be homosexual--the homophobia points to this--does he like to watch porn movies with 2 girls on a guy; or two men on a girl?--if it's the last-he's homosexual.

Heterosexual men like to watch two women together, two women pleasing a man--but they do not care for two men on a girl. Big time indicator--My daughter got involved with a guy like that-- he was not only prettier than her (and she's really gorgeous), but he had her have sex with another guy with him---definitely homosexual.

I feel that we are all androgenous; didn't you ever feel an attraction for a little girl in your class--or something like that? Of course, whether or not we choose to act on these feelings is up to us. If I were in a relationship--and all my relationships-if you can call them that -it was always heterosexual.

I have no predjudice against being homosexual, the only male friends I ever had were homosexuals---they were "safe".

My ex was definitely a sexual deviant by our society's rules.
He was a cheat, a liar, and he gave me many STD's over the course of a 16 year together marriage---10 years not together, but married.

He loved a88l stimulation, and all sorts of game playing--of course his favorite was the bj-------He insisted on sex 4-5 times a day in one form or another. I was the good wife, didn't know this was abnormal, and I did my duty--he still cheated, then claimed the std's came from the air.

I'd just cut it off---I mean the relationship--(wow, that came out badly--Freudian slip there on my part--sorry all you guys out there!)-------

It's definitely an indicator that he fools around- male or female--when he doesn't have sex with you for an entire month; then you catch him playing with a slim jim--
I used to buy sex toys for my Ex---he used to buy me uncomfortable lingerie, and put make up on me...

If it weren't for these breaks in your sexual encounters; I'd say there was nothing wrong..."If it feels good- do it!"--but it's not realistic for him to not want to have sex with you for long periods of time; especially when you are so open to do whatever he wants. Not all women are so compliant!!! You could do better, instead of having to worry over this.

You sound like a good person, and you deserve a mate that you can trust-----You are open and honest, you deserve the same from your partner-JMO--sorry so long.

I send you positive energy, and courage to deal with this situation----theo