1) Compassion without patronizing - I want my T to have empathy and understanding for the past things but I do not want T to allow me to use the past as an excuse for my NOW. I love it because my T is just perfect with this balance!

2) Boundaries while being facilitating to healing. This is another thing my T is great about. I NEED to be able to sometimes send T emails about my junk and just hard core venting. But I do not want to overwhelm him (or anyone) emotionally by what I say. T does a WONDERFUL job of allowing me to use this tool while maintaining his own boundaries for space. That has taught me that I can just vent very honestly and know T is perfectly safe from any shrapnel! It is the very best of both worlds.

3) Honesty. It helps me to know my T is honest about everything with me. Even if I don't like what he says, he can say it in a way that is not harmful to me, but it is still honest. His ability to do this allows me to trust that what he says is his truth. I don't have to spend energy trying to figure out if he just said something to make me happy or because he was afraid of my response. Honesty is one of the main things in life that I highly value!

4) Respect. T is different from me but it is obvious is his manners and words that even if he does not understand what I am trying to share or why I am sharing something, I always know he respects me and my opinion. This teaches me how to respect his opinions as well - which carries over to others in life.

There are many other things, but I think they all end up fitting into one of those main 4 sections. Good question!