Jexa,

This guy should have told you from the very beginning so that you could make a choice regarding whether this was right for you or not. I once dated a guy who was dating someone else at the same time, and he told me about it from the start, thereby giving me the choice to make. I am sorry you have been treated so badly and that your trust has been taken advantage of.

Also, I do hope you are able to work things out with your T. I know that you have had a good relationship with her previously. Sometimes it seems like a T wants us to be somewhere we don't even understand how to get to yet. Seems like it might be a good time to regroup and start over. Really let her know how you have been feeling and what you need from her.

Hugs to you and please take care of yourself.