Rainbow... well, we want what we need. But we do not always need what we want.

It is really important for a T to help a person to know what the goal of therapy is. It is possible to become addicted to therapy. A good therapist will know what is going on in the mind of the client (often before the client knows!). A good therapist will help the client learn how to know the difference between the need for a session or the want for a session.

For example, when I was doing my trauma healing, I had to see my T 3x week. Now I naturally LOVED being able to spend so much time with my T (even though the sessions were painful and brought up a lot of gunk). But I had a NEED to go in to see him and have him help me process through that very dark place I was in at the time.

But now I am back to work full time and I am almost totally done with my heavy trauma work. I still WANT to see my T 3x a week, but I do not NEED that. I do NEED to see him 1x week though. And I will probably NEED to see my T 1x week for several more months. But there will come a time when that NEED will be only 2x a month or maybe 1x month. And when that time comes, I know I will still WANT to see my T more (because I LIKE being around my T a whole bunch!). But I am confident that my T will know when that time comes and I trust T to help me use the medicine of therapy in only a healthy way.