AkAngel; this is the first time I've read this thread; Ripley--gee; I gotta say it; I am the same way.

Sex (actual intercourse) is, and was always anticlimactic (pardon the pun) for me.

But you might be interested in the fact that the French call it "le petit mort"=
the little death----Once you have sex; it's over.

I much prefer kissing, cuddling etc..
Also, as i have been pretty much Asexual for so many years; masturbation is a great outlet for me also--hey; I just do it better!!!

I have to admit, I miss the kissing and cuddling part ---but there are few men that want it to end at that.

Strange, you echoed my libido exactly; and it's not Sexual Anorexia, Fear of Intimacy
either-----I just don't have the "energy" for it. I ne'er did.----thanks---------theo