A friend of mine from grad school suggested that I am grieving over the loss of the person I thought I was going to marry, and that is all this is....

....and that everyone (therapists) is blowing it up into this huge mess....

I agree with her but think that I was also traumatized by the way everything played out...the fact that none of it was "real" and that this man was a liar and had legal problems I knew nothing about.

I am sick of trying to figure out why I feel this way but she pulled out her research on the stages of grief and it sounds a lot like how I feel...except I can't get to the "acceptance" phase.