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Is the fact that hurricanes have been alternating between male and female since the late 1970's, any comfort at all?
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Yes, as I'd said in a previous post here, it does keep the trigger at bay a bit. It's balanced, you see.
The way I could handle this better would be-- for example: If cars were referred to as female and trucks as male, and say, ships were female and planes were male....... then I think it wouldn't spark that awful feeling of female objectification and abuse. It would have -- BALANCE-- which is what's missing in this culture of today....... balance. and where there's imbalance there is almost always abuse......seems to be human nature.
I think our culture is so used to regarding females as objects-- that even females carry on with this practice--- BUT-- you would be hard pressed to find a male that would go along with such a thing if the tables were turned..... they seem to demand respect and have a VERY keen sense as to when that respect is threatened--
where sadly, most females don't.
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Maybe personalizing inanimate objects makes them seem friendlier and less intimidating, as some people find cars and computers to be. (By the way, I don't know if it means much, but I don't think in gender terms about all cars or computers, just my own.) Naming the machines that are the most useful to me kind of elevates them to Rosie the Robot Maid status. Remember the character from The Jetsons? Technically, robots aren't male or female either.
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I try to think of it in a positive way-- with very little comfort. *sigh*. It is nice to think that people name something female in affection and a type of friend...... but.... in the end, it seems to be just a mask for what really lies underneath.....
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I don't mean to belittle your trigger. We all have our own. I'm so afraid of snakes that if I see a picture of one in a book, I jump, and then I turn the page carrrrreffffulllllyyy by the corner, as if that picture of a snake is going to take a strike at me.
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while I can sure appreciate your phobia of snakes
(I have them of spiders)-- I think a
life threatening human caused trauma is far different than a phobia. It puts one's trust for life at stake, hypervigilence is ever present whenever humans are. One can never know just who the "snake" really is
I think it would be equal to if one had been bitten aproximately 4 times by snakes, and could have died and then have to face snakes every day of their life... never knowing which one could strike.... the muscles ever tense, the eyes taking just seconds to survey every area, the ears sharp to hear a gunshot, a yell or a crash of things being smashed-- every hour of every day.... that is the complex- PTSD I deal with and have since a wee child.
the triggers can feel as though my very breath is at risk..... ugh....
sorry I got on my soapbox
.... just sometimes I feel so alone as far as people understanding..... I'm sorry
I've meant no offense- to be sure.
fins