oops... I jumped the gun a lil earlier & totally skipped all of the prior posts that clearly state that ur not on anti-depressants... sorry! but I do have 2 agree with 1 of the earlier posts in that u need 2 learn 2 pleasure urself & all that jazz that follows & b able 2 relax b4 anyone else can give u any pleasure... it took me a long time b4 I ever actually could make myself relax & actually enjoy sex... & it really differs from person 2 person bc there's always an adjustment or 3 to be made lol