Here's what it seems to me, for all it's worth.

I don't think you are truly ready to be settled down with anyone at this time. I think you are still working on who you are and what you want out of your life and this is second to your education and career. That is not necessarily a bad thing.

Maybe it's time to work on YOU and what YOU want for yourself both personally and professionally. Would it be so awful to be a single woman without a man in your life as a constant and date different people? Maybe you need the dating to figure out what you really want out of a partner and staying with one person isn't going to help you find that out now is it?

I've always believed in taking care of the relationship I'm in at the time. Whether that means working harder on it, or figuring out that it's not working and working to end the relationship the best way I can. Until that is decided, I won't even consider another man in my life because it's not fair to me, the soon to be ex, or the new guy in my life. When ending a relationship, regardless of what the reason is, there is always a mourning period. Sometimes it's short, other times it's not. We mourn what we thought we had, we mourn the fact that it wasn't what we hoped it would be, we mourn the fact that we didn't "work". How can we get into another relationship when we are mourning and still trying to figure out what WE want?

Well, that's my take on it.....I hope I've said something worth thinking about saluki....I know it's not easy and I wish you well!


sabby