Jax,

Your post reminded me of a response that I just read the other day. It was description of the ultimate goal that is good to strive for here.

The quote is from dasiy6....& it was said beautifully. "You are always positive. When you offer advice it was always in a way that made that advice sound like...."I am sure you would have thought of this" as opposed to " I can't believe you haven't or you really SHOULD or NEED to do this." You gave the poster advice but validated what they were feeling as well."

I think that this is the best explaination I have have ever found.....& is a great goal to strive for. It isn't easy & there is a learning curve involved in posting. For myself, I have also found that sometimes when I have had a similar experience, I try to associate that to what was said.

Like it has been said....we all have our own issues that aren't always known by others.....it's kinda like shooting in the dark at times.

Don't get discouraged....you are doing just fine...& remember it is a growing process,
Debbie