my sister that died adopted a son from korea that has severe autism. he is now 16. my sister and her drug use and depression caused him immeasurable damage. my younger sister has a daughter that is two different people. relaxed happy funny when my sister is not there. quiet withdrawn and guarded with my sister around. my sister is controlling and subject split second mood swings. like breaking down and crying a lot in front of her daughter. yet then swings scary mad in a moment. it was the second time in years i got together with my younger sister when we flew together to washinton to make arrangements at christmas when my other sister died. the third time for a day when she showed me the box. I can not wxpress how awful it was so deep in loss and have a person (sister) alternating between tears, anger, disrespect, and me staying calm not reacting. it was very much saying the serenity prayer and my 8 years of sobriety and the AA program that carried the day.