Hello again,
I'm new in the forum and hoping that someone else has had the same situation and can advise me. I am 41 years old retired from the army in 2009 5'8 175 lbs in good health. After my 1 st divorce I met my wife in 1998 and married in 2001. Everything in the beginning of our relationship was great. There was never a problem with sex everyday and sometimes 2 and 3 times a day. I then started deploying back to back to Iraq and kept the long distance channels going. When I came back from my last deployment my wife had gained weight. It was never a problem for me and told her that I didn't have a problem with it as long as it didn't affect our relationship. The intitamacy decreased alot over the last 2 1/2 years. Down to once a week and only if I initiated it. When I ask her why she doesn't initiate it, she tells me that she doesn't think about it. I feel it's a two way street and if I'm the only one then it makes me feel that she really doesn't want to have sex. I have been doing this for 18 months at once a week. I am a very romantic type of person. I always get a suite when we go places, get her massages,give her massages, romantic dinners and try to be affectionate and understanding. But I feel whats the use of doing all of these things if it doesn't spark anything. It seems i'm taking all the initiative to receive the lowest above no sex at all. I hope someone can relate and tell me what I'm doing wrong