You do not deserve this treatment. I was married to a man for ten years that treated me that way.....only after the verbal abuse and remarks started....the physical abuse began...it was horrible....all I can say is...do not allow yourself to waste more years being treated this way....also for your daughter...my oldest daughter has big issues now....I stayed because of my kids...??????(I do not know why I thought that was better)..but it only hurt everyone. Think long about this.....think about the things you are being told. All it does is take away your self esteem.....25 years later i am still struggling with this. I will pray for you and your safety. I wish you luck and God's blessings. Remember, no one....No one......should be treated this way.....everyone deserves to be respected.....especially in a marriage