you are in the right place to get answers, here is my opinion keith, you are putting to much pressure on yourself to be in a relationship and be loved, and others can see that, just try and relax when out "chatting up girls" and be yourself.

dont throw yourself into a relationship, it doesnt sound like you are ready for that, and the way you are acting emotionally it is not going to be good for you, or them. you are still young and there is a world of opportunity out there waiting for you, take your time.

hope i have been of some help to you, dont let the waiting for the psychologist get you down, for now take the advice of the psychiatrist and the CBT and work with what you have got.