He's home now. We've talked. I'm not feeling much better. He wants to know why I'm sad. I summed it up with, "Emotions are important to me, but they don't mean squat to you."

He says, "That's just a difference between us. I don't see why it's something to be sad about."

But what a difference. It's as basic and foundational and vital to me as religious belief, an area where we are compatible. It's a core value. It's a very, very major area where we are not at all compatible. And even this, he doesn't think is important. Why didn't I recognize it sooner? Because we clash so rarely, and only then does it rise to the surface that I feel emotions, and he does not. I mean, he's totally blocked off. He can't even cry when there's a death in the family. Nor can he identify basic "feeling words" or list things that cause him to feel a certain way. "I feel sad when...." "I get angry when...." He can't do it. He can only say what he will *do* in a given situation, not how it makes him *feel.* And this drives me bananas. I hate being married to a robot. I want a human being for a husband.

As I've said, I've been hanging around the site waiting for replies. There have been none, but I've also been following views. The only people who have been viewing the Relationships forum, besides me, have been guests. So I guess nobody's been online who can help. I'm getting pretty bad. Still not in crisis, but could go that way.

I'll check back again some time tomorrow.