Sorry about the three posts in a row, but just an update: The problem is upsetting enough to me that I'm having trouble going to bed to sleep. It's now almost 5 in the morning here. I thought by now there would be a response, but there hasn't been.

It infuriates me that I'll ask my husband how he would feel in a given situation, and he answers with what he would do. He cannot identify a feeling word at all. He thinks he's answering my question, and that I just don't like his answer. But in reality, he's answering a question I didn't ask, and not answering the question I did ask.

"How would you feel if I fell down the stairs and broke my leg?"
"I'd call 911."
"No, I said, how would you feel?"
"I'd have to take care of business. It wouldn't do you any good if I just started jumping up and down and screaming."

It's about as logical as:

"What do you want for supper?"
"I heard it's going to rain tomorrow."
"No, I asked, what do you want for supper?"
"I said I heard it's going to rain. I can't do anything about that. What do you want me to do? Lie?"

He is not the man I thought I married, and I'm very disappointed.