I don't think it was computers that caused the slow loading. Mine was doing it too! My husband also has problems showing his feelings especially when it comes to grief. He isolates himself and removes himself from his surroundings. I find it extremely hard to break through to him and it is frustrating when I am ready to yell and stomp and let myself go. I take a page out of his book and respond to him with logic. It is very hard sometimes, not to let my feelings take over but I find he responds better to my logic rather than my emotions. I don't always like it but I want to be as fair as I can and not demand that he validate my wants at all times. It is a slow process but over the years, we seem to have found a medium that works for us. I still have days of insecurity and will demand 'what would you do if I died', but he responds with 'I will always love you'. That didn't used to be enough but these days, it's enough. Keep loving him and keep loving yourself.