Hello all, I am in relationship purgatory and need to talk to someone with a pulse and over the age of 8. I have been in limbo for 12 out of 12 years of marriage, my husband doesn't seem to want the same things I do, or I should say he doesn't want me. I don't think he doesn't not want me, but he comes from a long line of "puds" that have very little lust for life or the women they are with. Yet they will stay with whoever says "come on" I feel we will be married as long as I want to be married and I also feel worse and worse as he is a doormat and it is very hard not to step on him. I am also intellectually superior to him and just being able to say that is not a good sign and makes me a horrible person. He is a good man and father but our relationship goes in an endless circle of dispair. Things are okay-things get worse, worse, worse. Things are awful, he ignores me, I cry myself to sleep- he ignores that, I get fed up and I fix things. The cycle continues-HELP!!!!