I have told him like a million times. That's the hard to get part. I don't think I'm better off without him. I love him, but I don't understand why he doesn't care how I feel. I go through periods of months with not so much as a hug from him. If he sees that someting is bothering me or even if I tell him, he gets a deer trapped in the headlights look. Then if I need it, I do all the talking to fix it (me) or maybe after a month or more he will give me the "sneek attack" hug from behind. All the while for months not trying to talk to me, touch me or give me any affection at all. Sometimes I feel like I'm married to a rock. Did I mention that for our 10th anniversary I got nothing, not even a plan. For our last anniversary I got nothing again, then, after expressing my disappointment, I got a promo-type coffee cup that has the name of his employer on it. He bought it at work.