Oh dear, I'm sorry you're having a hard time of things.

I wish I was a guy -- in posting here to you........ but I'm not.... however, I believe I was raised similar to how, in general, a boy is raised and now I avoid drama, talking about feelings, expressing feelings towards others and many other "male" traits. (such things take me WAY out of my comfort zone-- but I'm learning to change-- it's easier for me as I'm expected to be as such and so I also have the culture pressuring me to learn it-- to be that way.... where your husband is still hearing those lessons -- don't be weak-- men don't show emotions....)

Imagine for a minute-- you are a young child, you get hurt and because you are a boy you're told not to cry- be strong not a weak wimpy. You are STRONGLY discouraged to express feelings towards others as that is considered "weak and female". and so as a child you avoid showing any pain or affection around humans and thus grow to be able to do that VERY well-- (it might be safe around animals coz they won't tell anyone) You never got to develop that "inner feeling" part of yourself, that girls get to, even if it's just towards other girls(if they come from neglect and/or abuse at least they have other girls to share with). It's not that you don't care-- it's that you never were allowed to learn to care and feel safe and good about it-- your inner self grows to repel it.... somehow....

well, this could be how your husband is.... maybe....(just thought I'd give you an idea, in hopes to help you) I just know that- generally- boys are treated VERY differently than girls are-- so why wouldn't they be different as adults?

I hope things work out and become less frustrating for you

fins