I guess in summary what I have been trying to say in the above post is-- that your husband not expressing emotions/feelings probably has much more to do with him and his "inner self" than it does to do with you.(IMO)

If he is willing and you both think it might help-- maybe a few sessions with a marriage counselor would be good. My husband and I have done this.... both for him to understand how I am and for me to understand how he is.
We learned to express our wants/needs a bit better. And not get so defensive and transfer our feelings onto eash other.

best to you

fins