No worries, BNLsMOM!!! Like grizmom said, you've always used the trigger icon whenever it's appropriate -- that's what it's there for. Everyone knows their own triggers the best and it's up to each individual to decide if they're feeling up to handling certain things at a given time (whether is be triggering or just "bringing them down"). The trigger icon lets them know there's something potentially there, and it's up to them to avoid it. You have done your part.

You know, as far as the thought of "bringing people down" goes...it personally makes me feel *more* isolated, freakish and hopeless when someone will *only* go with the upbeat. Sometimes our reality is just plain _not_ like that, and it makes me feel like I can't really say anything, because at that moment in time, I can't wrap my head around it at all. It's like I'm not being heard. Or that the pain is kind of dismissed, or at least brushed aside, to "keep everyone happy", you know? That's just not real. We spend enough time having to wear a mask, without having to do it with people who actually do understand. (That said, I struggle bigtime with the worry of "bringing people down", so this is a reminder to myself as well. How come it's so much easier to understand this with others than with ourselves?!)

Let's face it.... if we simply *couldn't* post at all about things that might trigger or upset, our conversations would certainly be diminished in depth. Sometimes we've just got to get it out there and know we're not alone.