Dear One!

I am sorry. I know only too well how you feel. Its very hard to live and be involved with an abusive man. I have been with my abusive ex for 7 years and finally left him few months ago. He was verbally, emotionally, mentally and then physically abusive. Gradually it became a torture to come back home as all I heard was abuse, name calling, threats and humiliations. He sounds similar to your husband.

Please remember it is not your fault. Please remember also that his behviour will only escelate and you have to be safe. Leave him! And do it safely.

Your well being and safety, self esteem and livelihood are the most important thing and no one has a right to that!

I think that he uses that divorce papers as a tool. He uses it to scare you and manipulate you. Please ignore it and go to speak to a lawyer. Serve him the papers.

He probably does have a mental illness from what you write but this is not your issue. A lot of people with mental illness do not hurt others and seek help and want to get better. He is not in this category.

Take good good care und vielen grussen x