I'm sorry you're going through a hard time. I'm glad your husband is as supportive of you as he is.
Just break everything up into small chunks and deal with each issue as it arises.
Maybe filing for disability is not such a bad idea - I know how unproductive I am at work. Then you could eventually find soemthing to do that pays by the hour (That way it's much easier to take leave and you won't feel guilty) or start your own side-line business.

It will keep your mind occupied.
Hey, BP is not fun nor easy, but we are here for you! XX