Wow thanks fore all this advice. It's like this my son was a follower still is. He used to do what I did and go without and he got skinny. Than he got better and meat this girl she's loves to eat. now my son's gain all his weigh back. My son won't move out he's 20 and has a learning disorder and gets ssi so he has an income. I'm his payee So we used some of his money for food. To top this all off he's smokes to so there an thing for us to use his money. I've just got to stop my trigger so I stay in my room all the time just to stop me from having a trigger.