(((LovebirdsFlying))) - I'm also sorry for being late responding and you received great advice. I think your husband feels love and emotions but he's afraid and not used to expressing it, especially when you're upset - so he freezes up, where its safe for him. If he didn't love you he would be gone, since you obviously go through rough periods. It's much better for him to freeze up, than go the opposite where he over reacts because this would cause big fights and you would be victimized. I'm so happy your therapist and the other posters here helped you understand this. Hang on to a good husband when you have one. I wish you both the BEST.

Perna - your post was very helpful to LovebirdsFlying's situation. I also enjoyed a good chuckle when you described your husband looking at you through the window. Who would think a falling down story would make me laugh.