Socity tell us it is wrong. Even as an SI addict myself I can't say it's OK.

I think the why you do it is the more important question than what you do.

So why do you SI, do you know?

For me it helps me cope, well it seems to help me cope, but it's really a lie, it just makes things worse in the long run.

This is jsut me, but I tend to see SI as a symptom of a larger problem, if you can work on the core issue than it's likely your SI will take care of it's self.